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Hi Everyone,
I wanted to create a place for you on my website that allows us to engage in a conversation on different topics.
Every two weeks, I am going to post a new question on this page and ask for you to write in with your comments, thoughts, and ideas. We can talk about anything you want from bodies to boys, from careers to crossroads, and everything in-between. This way we can create a dialogue within our Jess community that allows you to express yourselves and be heard, and for me to get a chance to interact with you on a more personal level.
I hope that you will have as much fun participating in this as I will! Let the conversations begin….
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How do you feel when you tell the truth? |
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Pure relief. Like all of these emotions harnessed within are revealed. The anxiety about telling the truth is nothing compared to the pain created by holding it all in. Yet, I still struggle with honesty when it comes to my struggles with my eating disorder. Is it shame, embarassment, fear of rejection from those that love me? Whatever it is, it is just not worth it.
-Megan
Ellensburg, WA
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I want to start off with how I don't even know how I came across this page. I couldn't sleep and I was bored so I just started fooling around on the computer and I decided I would answer this question.
Because thats the thing, I don't really ever tell the truth. I am always hiding something from somebody. Whether its to my parents about what I ate during the day or to my friends when they ask me whats wrong.
And when I do tell the truth , when I do trust someone, I feel like I have exposed myself too much. It is a weird feeling. Sometimes I wish I had more people to trust but when I do confide in somebody I feel like I shouldn't have. Like they are going to tell somebody that I am crazy or something. Or maybe that I am too scared of letting somebody down. It seems like I do that a lot.
-Hannah
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Usually when I tell the truth inside me I know that I am doing the right thing but somewhere I feel that if I had made up an excuse it would have been better but there is no point lying in front of my mom cause she is like a face reader who always knows everything no matter how hard you try to hide.
-Kaur Sethi
Guwahati,Assam,Indi
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I feel good when I tell the truth because it is off my chest. I don't have to worry about making up more lies for that one lie
-Monica
EastOrange, New Jersey
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I feel nervous and stuttery. After when I tell everything I needed to, I feel like the weight of the world is gone off my shoulders and I can just say Whew! When I tell the truth, I burst out crying afterward, and it feels good. I can finally not have to worry about something or someone.
-Rabeea Khan
Rancho Santa Margarita, California
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When I say the truth, I feel great inside because I know that saying the truth is one of the most awsome things in the world...and I know I would like my friends to always tell me the truth because I hate it if they lie to me. So,then I shouldn't lie to tell them.
-Fatima
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This question hits very close to home right now. I've been dealing quite a lot lately with honesty (or the lack thereof) in my life. I recently broke up with a boyfriend of two years because I had been having an affair for 4 months. It was not a physical affair, but rather emotional, but I was unfaithful nonetheless. I have to say that, no matter what people have told me in the past, I didn't feel better for telling the truth. In fact, after I admitted to my boyfriend what had been going on, I felt much worse. I suppose it was because I had finally admitted to myself the pain that I had caused and how deceptive I had been. It has been two months since our break-up, and I have moved on and am dealing with my guilt, but there are always days when I wish I had never told him and just ended the affair. Still, regardless of the guilt and self-loathing I felt after coming clean, I guess it is truly for the best. I feel now that it's not about feeling good, but about being honest. Sometimes the two go hand in hand, but when they don't, it's better to tell the truth. Communicating is the hardest thing for humans to do, especially in relationships, and you simply can't without honesty. So how do I feel when I tell the truth? As long as I've been truthful, especially with myself, it doesn't matter how I feel.
-Elise
Boulder, CO
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The truth can set you free so "they say", I can add that it can be a nerve rakeing exp/ if its not what the person is going to want to hear.
-Bridget Sanders
San Francisco, CA
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I gotta say I feel really good when I tell the truth. It makes me feel I dunno like on top of the world b/c I know I done my-self a favor and told the truth. Besides lying only makes me look like a fool and ruins my reputation in school.
-Chelsea
Zanesville, Ohio
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It feels amazing when you tell the truth, all the butterfly's in your tummy are set free! And you can finally show a true smile on your face!
-Ritika
India, Karnataka
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When I tell the truth I feel happy, I just feel amazing.
-Gabby
San Antonio, Texas
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Telling the truth is living life purely. Truth is freeing. It's healing. It's liberating. Truth with oneself can be scary and yet life changing. Living a truthful life is a gift to yourself and those you surround yourself with.
-Sandi
Hudson NH
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I don't tell the truth. I say what people want to hear, or what I think will make them like me more. When I tell the truth, I worry that people are judging me or that they won't like me as much. I value popularity more than honesty I guess.
-Nikki
Stockton, CA
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Question from 2/15/07
Did you have a great Valentine’s Day?
Actually, I didn't have a great valentine's day at all. Not one boy asked me out. I ended up staying at home, babysitting my brother while my parents and friends went out and had a great time.
-Carni
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Although my Valentine's Day did not involve flowers or chocolates or even a partner to share it with, I had a nice evening of me time. I relaxed on the couch and watched Breakfast At Tiffanys. The fireplace was lit and snow was falling outside and it was truly a great night, even if I didn't have anyone to "be mine".
-Jaci
Baltimore, MD
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I had a great v-day it started off good, the middle was good which had a kiss from Bret and then I went to the mall with my best friend and her bro and her bro's best friends I was sitting next to her bro and it was amazing. I leaned my head on his shoulder and held his hand. I like him he likes me. His sis, my best friend, is okay with it. Yhat made my v-day the best I ever had.
-Joelena
Benton, Washington
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My Valentines was great! Or as I sometimes call it...Valendoom's!!
I went to dinner and a movie with my sister. I don't think Valentine's day necessarily is for couples only. It is a day to celebrate the love you have for those in your life.
-Rebecca
Los Angeles, CA
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I spent my valentine's day with friends. I decided to go out after a long time of isolation here in my room. I realized I need to move forward. He sent me a txt message just asking if I was on a date. Like why does he care? After what just happened - making me feel insignificant, unworthy and all. My v-day wasnt great but surprisingly, it wasnt bad either. Thank Goodness.
-Madel
Manila, Philippines
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Manila,
I am proud of you for not sitting home and letting someone else decide how your day was going to be. Good for you for going out with your friends. It really is just another day after all. Keep up the good work!
-Stacey
Houston, Texas
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My V-day was wonderful. I got engaged on February 9th so it was our first V-day as a newly engaged couple. We didn't do much...I cooked dinner and we watched a movie at my apartment but it was magical.
-Melanie Kendall
Louisville, KY
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No, I got back from a vacation from Disneyland at 11 am and had to leave by 3 pm to drive from Santa Barbara to Fresno for a business trip. I spend Valentines Day night by myself in a hotel room, eating cold tofu.... But the few days before were fun. Your never too old for Disneyland.
-Alli
Santa Barbara, CA
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